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Weekly Update

It’s so hard for me to do anything that takes discipline. At the risk of overcommitting and underdelivering, I’m at least going to try and a blahhhg entry that shares some benign family updates and looks ahead to the week. That way, I hope to get in the habit of capturing regular thoughts, putting them into a blog entry and adding others as God brings them to mind. So, here goes week 1 of our weekly update.

We had a great time as a family going to the Arkansas Traveler’s baseball game on Saturday. Full schedules rarely permit us to do things as a family anymore. We don’t have many days left so we need to be more intentional about making those times a priority. After the game, we enjoyed fireworks over the Arkansas River. Great seats from inside a very nice AAA minor league outdoor ballpark. If you visit us during the summer, we’ll make sure to take you out to the ball game.

Have you ever had one of those projects you envisioned completing over a long day or even a weekend but found yourself weeks later still working on it? I have and do. We’ve had erosion over the past four years and it’s caused our backyard to retain water (no mitol jokes). What started as a relatively simple task of digging a couple of long ditches and digging some holes for drywells has become the project from h… However, all good things must come to an end, and we are nearing the end of phase I of this project. If you want to see how it looks or what I’m referring to CLICK HERE to see some photos. Anyone have a few weekends free for phase II?

Bryan house sat for friends of ours from FamilyLife, worked on some yard projects for a neighbor and is working full time as a maintenance car porter at a nearby Toyota dealer.  Jaclyn just returned from Guatemala and contunually enjoys time with her “homies”.  Erin is working in North Carolina all summer at a KOA camp as part of a Summershine ministry/work program.  She’s working hard and experiencing God in new ways!

Sue and I are holding the fort at home.  We are in the process of throwing our hat into the ring of a new Singles minstry at church.  I’m a little more called than she is but we are looking forward to seeing how God might use us “aged” folk in the lives of these 20-30 somethings.

Finally, we are experiencing God’s goodness and truth daily.  He’s stretching us in new and old ways.  Finances are still an issue for us as we seek His direction for our support.  Our staff balance has diminished to a level where we will get a short paycheck beginning August 1.  We are very content and that has to come from His peace that passes understanding.  Thank you for praying for us!

Until next post….

Daughter Sounds off on Discipline—Benefits???

So, we’re heading up to Minnesota for a couple of reasons; to attend a good friend of mine’s wedding and to spend time with family and friends (as an aside I was wondering if I just refer to our friends and family as “supporters” because we are missionaries with Campus Crusade does that minimize their relevance in our lives or, conversely, if I don’t allude to the fact that they are supporters does that minimize the fact that they are the foundation for our ability to stay in full time ministry—thoughts to ponder ;)).

Anyway, we’re heading up I-35 and my 17 yr old daughter, Jaclyn, wants to use my computer to watch a movie.  “OK”, I replied.  Soon, she pulled the laptop out of my briefcase and began loading the DVD.  After a few minutes I assumed she was well into the movie when her fingers starting scurrying faster than my dog chasing after a treat.  Interesting concept, I thought to myself…movie 2.0 (meaning interactive for you non-techy types).  She wasn’t watching the movie.  All she said was, “I’m writing something and I’ll let you read it after I’m done.”

I have to admit I was curious.  After an hour or so, she handed me the laptop and I read her musings.  She had taken it upon herself to write an article from the “kids perspective” for our DadPad blog.  Very interesting.  What 17 yr old wants to help a bunch of middle aged men get readership to their blog site (convinced that she will draw more interest than we have … LOL)?  Without any further ado, here’s the blog post that she rendered about why a father needs to make sure that he’s disciplining his child, in love, for her benefit.  Thanks, Jacs!

Thoughts from a Daddy’s girl

Jaclyn Abramovitz 5/27/09

Whenever Mom’s gone, we party. Not saying my mom’s not fun, but when we’re with my dad, we get pizza, movies, ice cream and other good stuff. 🙂  I think most dads are just wired to be the kids who’ve never grown up and therefore like to party it up with their own kids. This is a great thing, don’t get me wrong but I think sometimes Dad’s forget their other big responsibility…disciplining. Bet you never expected to hear a child say they need their dad to discipline, but regardless, it’s true.

Think about it, if you were never punished, you’d grow up thinking that whatever, whenever was acceptable. Think about what a shock it’d be going to your first job and for once being disciplined! What a wake-up call, do you mean to tell me that the world has consequences for poor choices and sometimes a negative answer to your whims? Even though you never want to hurt your kids, and, as my own dad has said, it’s hard to say no to someone who you love and have to deny them something they want, it’s harder to see them walking into something that’ll hurt them. That’s why discipline is so important, it’s because you want what’s best for your child and don’t want them to make some of the same mistakes you made. And while we don’t appreciate it and certainly don’t like it while we’re being disciplined, it doesn’t mean we won’t look back and thank you for doing it. As my dad has said many times before, “you’ll thank me for this later!”

The second part of this is how we see God as our ‘discipliner’. This is probably the hardest thing for me to grasp. I hate being corrected and told ‘no’ to. It’s definitely not my favorite thing. So when I ask God for something, most of the time I wrongly expect a gumball machine response. I put in my prayer and out pops what I want. But sometimes God has a different plan. It’s the hard times that shape us the most. I can’t emphasize it enough that if you never go through hard times, your relationship with God would still be the relationship between a big God and a little child. You mature through hard times, through God’s discipline and it makes you a better, stronger, more mature person. In Hebrews 12:6 it says, “For the Lord disciplines the one he loves…” He does it because he loves us. So just because I don’t have a car and I’ve been asking him for one for forever, I know there’s a reason. Maybe I’d wreck it if I got it now, maybe I’ll get a much better one since I’m waiting instead of forcing the issue, I don’t know.

Maybe you’ve made some bad choices and are feeling the repercussions of those choices. It’s all because God loves you and wants to let you know that he’s your loving father and is teaching you what not to do. Even though the road may not be fun, the end result, a diligent, faithful, stronger person was surely worth the discipline and hard times it took to get there.