Coach…Counselor…now Consultant. Over the past three posts I’ve shared a few thoughts about the importance of these sub-roles of being a Dad. Remember that I have stated you don’t distinctly move into these roles but there are phases where they become critical and are inherent in that phase. Coaching is ongoing but is really important during the first 8-9 years of your child’s life. Being a Counselor will undoubtedly be required as long your children are living but it is especially critical during this next phase of your children’s development, between 8-14 years of age. Then, there’s consulting. I’m experiencing newness in this final sub-role as the consultant.
Having been in a number of business positions over the past 26 years, I’ve dealt with a lot of consultants. I’m not sure I want to emulate many of them. However, they play a pivotal role in most organizations. They are able to step into a situation and see things from the outside and give a perspective that’s sometimes hard to see for the organization embroiled in the same issues day after day. So it is with a dad during this stage of life as he speaks into the increasingly complex world of his children.
Unlike a business consultant who can step away and move onto the next job without much ongoing ownership (other than the pride of knowing something he/she did helped an organization), a Dad is not supposed to step away in that manner from his children’s lives. However, in this phase you must be invited in by your kids, much as a consultant being invited in by a company. Continue reading →
In my late teens and early 20’s, Saturday’s used to be pretty ugly for me. Mornings especially. Without going into too much detail, let’s just say that it had a lot to do with my antics the night before.
While I no longer participate in those kind of festivities I’m feeling a little hungover today. Sue’s parents just left and the enjoyment of their presence leaves me a little “hungover” this morning. And, when I recount the laughs and enjoyment we’ve had as a family the last few days, I’m a little contemplative and melancholy. I guess it’s like this every year. We hustle and bustle our way into December 25 with so many things, including a lot of good things and then it passes leaving us a little forlorn. Maybe that’s why the holiday season is so full of emotion on both ends of the spectrum. So many highs but also a few lows. And, for some, not a season of joy at all.
Those of us who follow Christ write, speak and share a lot about the “reason for the season”. It helps keep things in perspective, at least for me. In fact, it’s really the only cure for this hangover, isn’t it? Aspirin won’t work. Buying more stuff on sale with gift cards and cash received won’t do it. Having relatives stay longer isn’t a real good idea if you want the good feeling to last ;-). But, when all the dust settles, Christ still remains. He is the One who won’t leave me lacking or wishing for something else. He is the One that fills all of those longings.
So, I’ll be a little mellower today (until I have to pay bills ;), a little more sullen. That’s OK. That’s the Christmas hangover. In the middle of it all, it drives me back to the depth of my desire. It’s not in gifts, family, great deal finds or even church gatherings. It’s solely my relationship with Jesus…the Christ-child. Thanks, God, for being my “hangover” medication.